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Name: AmericanDaughter
Gender: Female
Interests: God. Expressing myself. Advocate for Children. Helping to end child abuse. Humanity. Earth. Harmony. Peace. Freedom. My Soul.
Expertise: Doing what I do.
Occupation: Catcher in the Rye
Industry: Iconoclast.
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Member Since:
12/18/2008
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| Would you ever consider changing your birth name and if so, what name would you pick?I would never change my name. I have a beautiful name that I love.
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| So, you had sex...When children grow up to be good citizens, we give credit to the parents. "What great parenting" we say of the Olympian offspring. But, if the child is a killer, or rapist or thief: "Oh, you can't blame that on their parents."
Which is it people?
You can not have it both ways.
Take responsibility for your children.
Grow up and stop telling them to.
AmericanDaughter
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| Tired of the excuses, sick of the abuse. 
Every adult who says corporal punishment of children, spanking, is needed to be a good parent, to raise a child to be a "good" person: has been hit, has been abused themselves as children. People who were not spanked as children do not spank their children. Everyone who spanks their child is an abuser. If you have ever laid a hand on any child, you have abused.
Why do they think hitting is okay? Why do they think using physical violence on those smaller than they is moral and correct? Why? Because they are damaged people. They were physically abused in some way as a child, and so now they believe that this is love, that using physical violence is the "only way." If they see their own abuse as abuse, and remember how much it scared them as a child; they would have to remember that they saw their parent as a monster. To learn to live with the monster you must believe they are not a threat and when you are old enough you can begin to impress your will on others. "If I do not hit this child they will never learn." Abuser. Controller. Never learn what? Your will. Your crap that you do not deal with inside your own self, heart. Shut down since the time when the one you loved most, the only god you knew: Hit You. "I got hit and I turned out to hit my kids." See, it makes so much sense", they proclaim inside their delusion. This damaged wisdom tells them, a child that has a strong will in the first place should always be introduced to violence and control at a young age. Believing this is the best way to handle fire. Stoke it, blow on it, throw more wood on that fire.
Only parents who are detached from their children see anything about them as "dangerous" or something to be discouraged. These are the parenting thoughts and skills of the abused, abusive parent. Since they never fully bonded with their parents, because of the physical violence, they see their children the same: as potential menace makers that must be thwarted at a young age lest they be a plague on their parents and society. If you have spanked once, you have spanked a thousand times and in that violence and its justification is your release, a moments release of the seething anger imprinted on you while still so young. Violence is never the answer. Anytime you use physical correction to discipline, and justify it as worthy the cycle continues. Please stop hitting your children.
Problem child? I do not believe in any such thing, but I will entertain the fantasy for a moment: ever hear of god/creator/if an antheist: we get blanked out anyway so what does it matter so much? Praying? Having faith that we are all created to be as we should? Stop being such a control freak of a new life. Books, education. How about not being so ignorant as to continue thinking everything your parents did was what is known now, needed now. Time marches on, we gain more information as a species, there are other ways to deal with your problems than with physical solutions. Stop blaming kids for your problems, your stress about life: its always the kids...they are driving you crazy. No. You are crazy and it is sad that kids have to put up with crazy abused and abusive adults. Every day we hear about children that are abused, hurt. About adults that kill and hurt people and people say: why? It is because you hit your kids. Stop. It.
Parents who spank: "I spank my kids and I am a good person, see..."
AmericanDaughter: "Well, I don't think adults are being "good" when they spank, see..."
The line of thinking that I am good therefore all that I do is good, proves nothing except to an already abused mind. It is like a person who has killed saying: but I am a good person. What is your definition of good? I think good knows much better ways to love than to hit. I do not want to see any one else in pain anymore and the way to that is to stop hitting our children. But my words to an abuser are an attack because I am daring to question their reality: if they were to think hitting/spanking was bad, they might have to see themselves as less than good and then they would not get to spank and they just can't have that: not spanking is something to be fiercely attacked. There seems to be a true belief that if they were to not spank their kids something terrible will occur. In fact, those of us that think you should not spank just do not(I guess) understand that incredible danger and how these spanking parents are our only defense. My, what a duty! What heroes! They always do want kudos, "Oh, my kids are just awful but I keep them in line!" That is creepy. Not good, or loving or any type of relationship with your kids to be admired or emulated. Are you so in fear of the life you created, you chose to bring onto the planet and its willfull ways at such a young age that you are telling society that you must use such extreme measures as corporal punishment? What are you saying? Why do you believe this about your own flesh and blood? Because you do not love yourself and I am sorry you got abused. Let's stop abuse together. You do not need to announce you have stopped. Just stop. Thank you.
-AmericanDaughter
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| Question of the day: What won't people do for attention?
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| No woman no cryThis Sunday was Mother's Day and my sister's birthday. I have no relationship with either-and my mother is the reason for that. I hope my sister had a nice day. I am sickened and sad today because I do not have and have never had a loving relationship with my sister. This wish is for the little girl she was...not the woman I don't know...Happy Birthday little sister...
AmericanDaughter
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